This week, on Changeworthy Abbey…
Lady Changeworthy: I live for the weekends. I don’t get you all week and you don’t come home for lunches anymore because of your work. I love it when you are finally here and don’t have anything else to do and we can spend the weekend together.
Lord Changeworthy: Thank you. That makes me feel good that you like to be around me so much.
Lady Changeworthy: I really do like to be around you.
A miracle just occurred. Can you see it? Maybe some contrast will help bring it out. Here are some other typical responses to this statement you might hear in an Abbey near you:
Lady Changeworthy, you shouldn’t live for the weekends, you should find a way to have more fun during the week, such as the weekly village polo match.
We have plenty of fun when I get home in the evenings. Why just last night we entertained Lord and Lady Matherbottoms. Didn’t you just fancy his joke about the end of the aristocracy?
I work hard going on hunts and maintaining our inherited fortune. You wouldn’t have a glorious mansion if not for me.
What’s a Lord to do? I just can’t get away from the club for lunch anymore.
Do you see it now? Where would any of these responses have taken this couple? All the way downstairs with the staff, probably.
The miracle happened when Lord Changeworthy found the virtue within the statement of Lady Changeworthy and stated it, completely changing the course of the conversation.
The truth in many relationships is people choose not to look for the virtue in a statement. They choose to look for something to defend or protect, and it kills the conversation and kills any chance of a positive exchange.
This miracle is available to you today, even if you are not a Lord or Lady. Find virtue and focus on it, your inherited fortune may depend on it.