I’ve found you can take any well-known saying and reverse it to find a bit of truth. One way we often try to motivate people is telling them, “You were made for so much more.”
But that only makes them feel worse because not only have they failed at meeting your expectations, they are not fulfilling their potential.
Maybe the case is the opposite: They were made for so much less. Maybe people can’t meet your expectations because you want to much out of them. Maybe you can’t ever be enough because you were never meant to be enough.
Jesus lays into the Pharisees several times about their overemphasis on meeting the laws. You know, those ridiculous Pharisees who were so focused on following the rules that they missed the relationship. So, they got stuck doing, rather than being. They got no rest in God, only busyness. Good thing we’re not like those Pharisees, God bless them.
And take technology now. There is no such thing as “Educational” programming for little kids. Why? Because studies show babies (at least up to 2) are only learning to numb out when they watch videos. They were made for less. They were made to learn from good ol’ face to face and firsthand experience, not overstimulating simulated experience.
Adults also try to do too much. Our brains work sequentially, not simulataneously. We are task-switchers, not multi-taskers. Each activity you do at the same time reduces your effeciancy and increase your errors with all of them. And many of us drive while doing them–risking our very lives to do more. We were made for so much less!
Back to relationships. We put such high hopes and expectations on other people to fulfill us. They do the same to us (and they are always so much worse about it). You may have said or thought, “I can’t do enough or be enough for you.” I think you were right.
Love is not heavy (I checked II Cor. 13). In fact doing less lets love do more. So we need to do less trying to please, less trying to be Jesus (he already completed his work), less trying to be a mood stabilizer, less reactivity, less expectation, less covering up. Love makes things light (I love the multiple meanings of that statement).